First let me give my definition of the Madonna/Whore Complex. I use the more mainstream definition, rather than Freud’s spin on it. Why? Because Freud was a behaviorist who proported psychic determinism and allow us to blame other people both past and present for our current decisions. Personally I favor Viktor Frankel’s theory of self-determinism, which basically says that YOU control your own destiny, even if your parents didn’t do the best job raising you.
So, my definition of the Madonna/Whore Complex:
Men classify all women into one of only two categories: either evil sexual temptress, or good and pure saint; a woman has to be one or the other. Read more...(848 words, estimated 3:24 mins reading time)
It is the smallest club I have ever worked, and the most friendliest. The theme of the Gentlemen’s Club Expo was Teamwork, which is easier to implement at cozy neighborhood clubs than upscale chains. One remarkable thing about Babe’s is the general respect the entertainers have towards each other’s personal belongings. Even though there are lockers available (which I personally use to lock up my purse, wallet, cell phone, and makeup bag) many of the girls feel comfortable leaving their belongings out. It is not unusually to see several expensive smartphones lined up on the counter top, and designer clothing sticking out of half open bags underneath. During the busy golf and spring training season when the club hires more girls, there is the inevitable sentiment of “It has to be the new girls…because we trust each other.” Nevertheless, this is great way to feel about the majority of your co-workers. Read more...(492 words, 1 image, estimated 1:58 mins reading time)
I worked at The Spearmint Rhino during my trip to Dallas in September 2008. Since my fingerprint card was still on file, it was a natural choice to just pop back into that club. Especially when the other option is pay another $50 for fingerprints, audition, get hired, go through orientation, yada yada yada. Plus one of my DancerWealth students worked there and this allowed me the opportunity to do some in-club coaching with her. She also got to entertain one of Sexual Harrassment Panda’s friends for an evening. Read more...(545 words, estimated 2:11 mins reading time)
The Lodge is unlike any club I have ever experienced. Check out these local commercials.
From a dancer’s perspective, if I lived in Dallas…. I wouldn’t want to work anyplace else! Much of my opinion is due to the positive reinforcement strategies that owner, Dawn Rizos implements throughout the club. For example, there is NO HOUSE FEE for entertainers who arrive to work on time at 6pm. Dayshift entertainers not only pay no house fee, but are also fed a catered lunch by the club’s Five-Star Restaurant. I had the lobster bisque and crab stuffed halibut; it was delicious! Read more...(398 words, estimated 1:36 mins reading time)
Bobbie in Atlanta sent me an email after listening to my interview on Playboy Radio last week. Thanks again Christy Canyon and Nikki Hunter for having me on Night Calls! Between squeezing each others boobs and talking about what Nikki used to do in the Champagne Room (she didn’t really) we were able to talk about some things that really matter in the industry right now.
Bobbie was asking about Economic Darwinism. If you aren’t familiar with biologist Charles Darwin, you may have heard the phrase “survival of the fittest.” In the wild, the strongest, smartest and most adaptable creatures were the ones who lived through tough times. The weak and those who are unable or unwilling to adapt are the first to die. Read more...(500 words, estimated 2:00 mins reading time)
We at Strip and Grow Rich want to help you make the most money during this slow summer season.
So, today we are kicking off SuperStripper Summer Secrets: Eight Weeks to hone your Sales Skills.
Components include
1. FREE weekly DancerWealth supplementary audio. As you can see, I have attached the introduction. You can download it to your hard drive and rip it into your mp3 player. It will also soon be available in the StripandGrowRich iTunes Podcast. I am fixing the feed and it will take a few days for the modifications to show up in iTunes. Read more...(151 words, estimated 36 secs reading time)
So, did anyone else have a problem answering some of those personality test questions? I did.
As entertainers, we put a mask on every night. We wear both a physical mask (hair extensions, fake boobs, fake eyelashes, heavy makeup) and an emotional mask. For those of you who are relatively new to entertaining, you may still be in the process of developing your Stripper Persona. Read more...(299 words, estimated 1:12 mins reading time)
A good friend sent me this link the other day with her results.
The analysis was so accurate I decided to try it myself and posted the results to my Facebook Page:
You Are An ESTJ
The Guardian
You’re a natural leader and a quick, logical decision maker.
Goals are important in your life, and you take many steps to achieve them.
You enjoy interacting with others, mostly through work related activities.
Your high energy level means that you are great at getting things done!Read more...(379 words, 1 image, estimated 1:31 mins reading time)
As you know, I’ve been at my mom’s house in suburban Philadelphia for the past week. Although she doesn’t like what I do for a living, she has taken path of unconditional love. Earlier this week, she hosted her Bible Study group’s pot luck dinner. Many of these now gray-haired little old ladies remember me from Sunday School and Youth Group….and can’t resist re-telling the story about The Fishers of Men. Read more...(245 words, estimated 59 secs reading time)
Nikita Kash at www.travelingentertainers.com gave me the heads up on the Grand Opening of this club. I drove by before it opened last week just to scope out the location. It is actually a brand new building about a mile north of Oasis Gentlemen’s Club. A few of the Oasis owners are also owners of this club. Here is the blurb from the Philadelphia Inquirer, scroll down to the bottom.
I arrived at 9:30 for the start of my 10-2 shift. The club is brand new, and yes the tanning bed in the dressing room mentioned in the article is apparently very strong. The club has a great set-up for the owners and the customers, but it is not optimal from the dancers’ perspective. Read more...(565 words, estimated 2:16 mins reading time)
Economic Darwinism in the Strip Club
Tuesday, July 28th, 2009Bobbie in Atlanta sent me an email after listening to my interview on Playboy Radio last week. Thanks again Christy Canyon and Nikki Hunter for having me on Night Calls! Between squeezing each others boobs and talking about what Nikki used to do in the Champagne Room (she didn’t really) we were able to talk about some things that really matter in the industry right now.
Bobbie was asking about Economic Darwinism. If you aren’t familiar with biologist Charles Darwin, you may have heard the phrase “survival of the fittest.” In the wild, the strongest, smartest and most adaptable creatures were the ones who lived through tough times. The weak and those who are unable or unwilling to adapt are the first to die. Read more... (500 words, estimated 2:00 mins reading time)
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