April 26

Confidence Makes the Man

What makes a man sexy?  Is it his eyes, his hair, his clothes?  Maybe for the young and impressionable.  Or is it his nice car, nice house,  nice bank account? Nope.  Confidence is the single most sexy trait in a man.

It amazes me how many handsome, educated, charming men lack confidence with women.  I meet them everyday.  I listen to them pour their souls out to me over a drink or two (or ten) at work.  I just don’t get it. 

A few people specifically comes to mind. First is Dale*,  Dale* is a very HOT firefighter.  The kind of dreamy guy that women have steamy midafternoon fantasies about: blonde, tan, muscular, 6 pack abs.  On the outside, he looks like the kind of guy that could have any girl he wanted.  But Dale lacks the confidence to approach women.  “I’m not a party guy,” he tells me “I work with all men, most of whom are married.  It’s been a disaster when they set me up.  I don’t know how to approach an attractive woman and talk to her without her thinking I’m a wack-o” 

Where to go to meet quality women?  Hmmmm how about ANYWHERE!  The grocery store, Starbucks, the gym, the library, the gas station.  We are everywhere.  You just have to step outside your comfort zone and talk to us!

Honestly, it’s flattering.  As women, we have been taught to be demure, to let men approach us.  As teenagers and young adults, alcohol consumption is the only way we get over our shyness to approach men.  As we get into our late 20s and 30s we don’t want to be wasted in order to meet the opposite sex either! 

So guys…..it’s up to YOU!  Bite the bullet.  Be a man.  The worst she can say is “No” (provided of course you do it tactfully without any characteristics of stalking)  You will know in an instant if she’s into you, or if she thinks you’re a wack-o.  If it’s the latter, who really cares.  What is the chance you will run into this person again?

Confidence….fake it ’til ya make it.

*All Names have been changed to protect the innocent