The other day night I was at work and noticed a coworker who was feeling down. She was getting bummed just because the club was slow (at 7pm) and her negativity was starting to affect those around her.   Negativity is contagious, so I wanted to stop it in it’s tracks.  I instantly started talking about how to get into the SuperStripper Zone.    The more we talked, the more she shifted from being negative to being positive.  Read more... (305 words, estimated 1:13 mins reading time)

Are you internally or externally motivated?  Do you feel like things happen to you or that you make things happen for yourself?  How do you deal with obstacles: do you push harder to navigate around them towards your goal or do you step back and hope things work out somehow?

Step back and assess your life.  Think back five years ago.  Do you have the things you dreamed and wanted five years ago?  If not, why?  Was it for a lack of clearly determined goals?  If you did set goals, did you achieve them?  If you set a goal, and did not achieve it, why?  Can you take responsibility for being lackadaisical while navigating those obstacles that inevitably pop up?  Read more... (454 words, 1 image, estimated 1:49 mins reading time)

Values are those things that are most important to you.  They include people, things, virtues, concepts, beliefs and feelings.  Together they constitute your individual philosophy of life.  Goals, on the other hand, are how you fulfil the values that are important to you.  What was interesting to me, was that my values are basically the same….but my goals have changed.  This is logical, because at the time I only set one year goals…and that was five years ago.  Nevertheless, I was able to follow through with the necessary action because I had defined my values and goals.  Read more... (634 words, estimated 2:32 mins reading time)

“Awww man! I missed the first two weeks of Spring Training because I was in Tent City for a DUI.” a co-worker of mine lamented one evening last week…”at least when I was in federal prison there were showers with a curtain and three square meals!”

I thought that was almost as good as the quote last year when I overheard a stoned dancer mumbling as she fiddled with her locker combination, “Lockers, lockers, I hate f-in lockers….I was locked up in one for three years ya know…”  Read more... (298 words, estimated 1:12 mins reading time)

Life is a ticking clock.  There are no time-outs.  What you do on Friday night counts, just as much as what you do on Sunday morning or Thursday afternoon.  Your choices reveal who you really are.  You are where you are today because of the choices you made in the past.  You’ve made decisions about what to learn and what not to learn.  You’ve made decisions to believe some things and not others.  You’ve made decisions about who you spend your time with, who you date, who you marry/have married, and whether or not you will have children.  Read more... (216 words, estimated 52 secs reading time)

Intelligence, education, hard work, and good connections are useful; but without goals, you tend to drift like a rudderless ship from project to project, never harnessing your full potential.

The primary benefit of setting goals is that you begin to take control of your life.  The overwhelming majority of Americans are so caught up in the urgent activities of daily living.  They are running hard, but getting nowhere because they have confused activity with accomplishment.  Read more... (230 words, estimated 55 secs reading time)