What separates the SuperStripper from her peers? What kind of personality does she have? How intelligent is she? What lifestyle does she live, and what special talents was she born with that separates her from the rest of the girls in the locker room struggling to make rent? We assume that it is these personal qualities that explain how she rose to the top. Read more...(387 words, estimated 1:33 mins reading time)
At one time or another, we have all asked ourselves:What is THAT girl doing?Why does SHE always make twice as much money as I do?Is there something I should be doing different?? You know who I’m talking about.She is in every club.You see her counting more than what you said was your GOAL for the night and the shift isn’t even close to over yet!!How does she do that?
It’s because she is in The SuperStripper Zone Read more...(301 words, estimated 1:12 mins reading time)
Are you internally or externally motivated? Do you feel like things happen to you or that you make things happen for yourself? How do you deal with obstacles: do you push harder to navigate around them towards your goal or do you step back and hope things work out somehow?
Step back and assess your life. Think back five years ago. Do you have the things you dreamed and wanted five years ago? If not, why? Was it for a lack of clearly determined goals? If you did set goals, did you achieve them? If you set a goal, and did not achieve it, why? Can you take responsibility for being lackadaisical while navigating those obstacles that inevitably pop up? Read more...(453 words, 1 image, estimated 1:49 mins reading time)
Daisy Delfina prompted me to start using my Twitter account again. I signed up for the service about a year and a half ago, but I wasn’t really sure what it was for, how to use it, etc. There was also a very useful thread on www.exoticdancernet.com with links on how to use Twitter for business. GoldCoastGirl Vanessa in Australia provided me with some fabulous resources in that thread and I must thank her!
I was burning the midnight oil last night (after my money photoshoot) because I was engrossed in my personal Area of Genius. As I was reviewing, restructuring, and rewriting the DancerWise and DancerVictory Curriculum, I found my copy of David Bach’s Automatic Millionaire workbook. This was where I began my quest for financial literacy five years ago. It was interesting to look back at my values and my goals from 2004.
Values are those things that are most important to you. They include people, things, virtues, concepts, beliefs and feelings. Together they constitute your individual philosophy of life. Goals, on the other hand, are how you fulfil the values that are important to you. What was interesting to me, was that my values are basically the same….but my goals have changed. This is logical, because at the time I only set one year goals…and that was five years ago. Nevertheless, I was able to follow through with the necessary action because I had defined my values and goals. Read more...(634 words, estimated 2:32 mins reading time)
“Awww man! I missed the first two weeks of Spring Training because I was in Tent City for a DUI.” a co-worker of mine lamented one evening last week…”at least when I was in federal prison there were showers with a curtain and three square meals!”
I thought that was almost as good as the quote last year when I overheard a stoned dancer mumbling as she fiddled with her locker combination, “Lockers, lockers, I hate f-in lockers….I was locked up in one for three years ya know…” Read more...(297 words, estimated 1:11 mins reading time)
Life offers you a special deal: every choice you make has a consequence, even if it’s not immediate.
Life is a ticking clock. There are no time-outs. What you do on Friday night counts, just as much as what you do on Sunday morning or Thursday afternoon. Your choices reveal who you really are. You are where you are today because of the choices you made in the past. You’ve made decisions about what to learn and what not to learn. You’ve made decisions to believe some things and not others. You’ve made decisions about who you spend your time with, who you date, who you marry/have married, and whether or not you will have children. Read more...(205 words, estimated 49 secs reading time)
We only get an edited look at the world around us. That is because our beliefs act as filters, screening out any evidence that doesn’t support what we want to believe is true.
1. As humans, we make life choices that harmonize with our beliefs. We unconsciously choose to put ourselves in situations and associate with people that fit our preconceptions. We avoid people and situations that might weaken or challenge what we believe to be true. Read more...(353 words, 1 image, estimated 1:25 mins reading time)
The number one reason people don’t set goals is that they have not yet accepted personal responsibility for their lives
Intelligence, education, hard work, and good connections are useful; but without goals, you tend to drift like a rudderless ship from project to project, never harnessing your full potential.
The primary benefit of setting goals is that you begin to take control of your life. The overwhelming majority of Americans are so caught up in the urgent activities of daily living. They are running hard, but getting nowhere because they have confused activity with accomplishment. Read more...(183 words, estimated 44 secs reading time)
I got a genuine compliment from my first customer of the evening tonight, “You’re the coolest chick I’ve come across in the past five years….and I’m not just saying that because you’re straddling me half naked.”
Having a positive self-image is imperative to finding success in this industry. Your self-image is the subconscious mechanism responsible for guiding your behavior. We always act consistently with the image we have of ourselves. If you see yourself as a second or third tier dancer who most guys don’t want a dance from…then by golly you aren’t going to sell many dances. Read more...(326 words, estimated 1:18 mins reading time)
