I have addressed this topic over the years in several different blog posts. Most of the time I write a story about the customer, the conversation, and my analysis. Other times I reference psychology journals, articles, and other research.
The only thing I can conclude is that Strip Clubs satisfy Men’s Emotional Needs This was actually one of my first blog entries. After two years of blogging and reflecting, I strongly feel that this sums up why men go to strip clubs. If you haven’t read this individual entry, please do so before proceeding.
Most of the time, and the majority of the customers come in for attention. I classify normal guys who are looking for entertainment in this category. In a sense, isn’t entertainment when the attention is directed toward you?
If he’s had a bad day at work and doesn’t want to go home to a cranky SAHM.
If he’s shy and doesn’t have the confidence to strike up a conversation with a pretty girl
If he’s a normal guy just killing time looking at pretty girls
If he’s on a golf trip with his buddies
Sometimes they come into the club because they don’t have any affection from ANYONE in their lives
There are the customers who come in to satisfy their need for sexual fulfillment, because their wives/girlfriends either can’t or won’t accommodate them:
Zach the Weakling from Winnepeg who wanted to be dominated
Very well known President of a major corporation who has a closet Oedipus Complex
One day when I have the time, and the money….I’d like to do a study. I have a theory that strip clubs reduce domestic violence. It’s tough to prove, since both are such hush-hush topics.
Pretty much you have it nailed. When I was a younger and much less-confident single man, the strip club was a place where I knew there was a 100% chance of a hot girl being naked. Now that I am older and married, it is a place where there is a 100% chance of a hot girl being naked without the baggage that goes along with being a spouse.
Even being an entertainer myself (I am a musician, after all) with a few birds throwing themselves at me on occasion- I really don’t want the attention from them, as in some cases, it can be dangerous. In a strip club, it is (in most cases) left in the club after the party’s over.
But mainly- strip clubs are a place where there are quasi-available hot, naked women in an environment that is pretty unthreatening. There are no expectations, no worry that there’s a phone call from a woman weeks later that could change your life. No fights will ensue from looking at some girl who’s with someone else. I can get a dance, leave, and never hear from her again if that’s what I want. That’s why I go to strip clubs.
Thank you for your honest response!
I also wrote a blog on this. As hard as it’s been to accept I know it’s not because he’s un-happy at home it’s because he wants someone neutral to spend time with and talk to.