Why can’t ALL my clients be as insightful (and totally friggin hot!) as Blaze? We were chatting yesterday, as we do when he has downtime during his 48-hour-long firefighter shifts. He said this about dancers who appear to be cold and uninterested on stage:
“The bottom line is that strippers are still women. And, as such, there are ten thousand reasons why they may appear cold and uninterested, all of which may have nothing to do with you (the guy). They may not have gotten any tips at all that night and are standing there, re-evaluating their lot in life as they grind through another stage appearance. They may have read a post about how they give BJs in the VIP and are pissed off about it. There mind may be a thousand miles away on something that has nothing at all to do with their dancing. And this, to a guy who is insecure and craves the full attention of a stripper, may come off as cold and uninterested.
The perfect example is a girl at CCs. She was dancing and had the far off stare- totally sendin uninterested/cold vibes to everyone. I was the only one who tipped out of two songs. I tipped alright (not a bunch) and suggested she come over to the table when she got done. In my mind, I thought there was no way she was coming over and was just taking a long shot- anticipating an average dance. Turns out, she was thinking about some stuff at home and we spent an hour together, resulting in her giving me her number unsolicited. (Hmmm…Was this the night you were late and I signed out with Kelly the Cotton man?)
Men need to remember that the girls are people, not just strippers. There are things on their mind other then the sweaty, hairy guys panting after them on stage. If the guys want a good dance, and want decent company, they need to remember that THEY are part of a transaction as well, and that people skills will take them far, too.”
But, as us strippers know: really hot, really insightful clients like Blaze are the minority. This is the kind of guy that scores our phone number. This is the kind of guy we date, and in my case eventually marry. Yes, hubby (who will from now on be referred to as Vinnie Vigglioti in honor of his Italian heritage) was one of my first lapdances 7 1/2 years ago.
Side note on the origin of Vinnie Vigglioti: When I was engaged, I was very resistant to change my last name. Everything I had done in my life was in my maiden name: college, graduate school, fitness certifications and awards. I didn’t want to lose that part of my identity. So one night over martinis and Limoncello, I suggested that we both legally change our names to something completely different. So for a brief drunken moment we actually considered legally changing our names to Avalon and Vinnie Vigglioti.
Ironically, the name “Vinnie Vigglioti” somehow got on someone’s mailing list and actually receives mail at our house. Oh, and I changed my name yesterday on Facebook to Avalon Vigglioti….changes are pending.
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